Thursday 29 December 2011

The sun is out

Well I think I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I was pretty down for a while about the prospect of leaving our house and I was pretty screaming mad at our ex-contractor for putting us in this horrible financial situation! I am still mad, but I am  getting over it. We have a plan now. I am impaitient to get things moving and I really want to start seeing some progress, but at least I know hat direction we are going in. PJ's parents have been great and really helped us get some much needed yard clean up done, my mom has been kind enough to offer us her house while we get things sorted.

In the mean time I am looking forward to enjoying our house for Christmas and enjoying this season of joy and thankfulness. Despite all the the other "stuff", we have a lot to be happy about this year. We got married, we are still very happy about being together, we are tired but healthy, we have good jobs and families who are there for us. It is really not so bad.

I am looking forward to the holiday parties (5th one this weekend) and relaxing on my holidays! One more week before back to work!

Friday 2 December 2011

To move or to move farther...

We have decided that in order to complete our reno faster, we need to move and rent out the upper floor of our house. It isn't really something I want to do, in fact it is the thing I least want to do. It feels so much like a step backwards. If I were really honest it is because it means letting go of the dream life where everything goes according to plan. I get my house, we get married, we have babies and I have money to buy them things and decorate a room for them and I happily have fun lunch dates with friends while on maternity leave.

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My brain seems to work in extremes, so because of the money situation that is requiring us to move out of our house means my brain thinks we will never have enough money to have a child, it will always be hard and blah blah blah. I need a money tree!

Right, Back to reality! It is not the end of the world. We are very fortunate that both PJ's parents and my mother  have offered to have us in their homes while we get things sorted out in the basement. Logistically my mother has more space and privacy to offer, and we have already lived there so we know it works. I also am willing to let go of the dream and realize things may not be how I planned but it will all work out.

Monday 14 November 2011

Advice for first time renovators

Like every other first time homeowner, we bought a house and dreamed about its possibilities. Our house has a full basement that we thought we could turn into a basement apartment and then in later years reclaim as extra living space as our family grew. We took about eight months to live in the house and get a feel for it before we made the decision to start the renovation. We thought we did everything right, We got quotes from at least four different contractors and recommendations from family. We decided on one contractor and looked at some his work in person and photos. We signed a contract with him and thought we good because we "had it  in writing". So, we were well on our way to having a fully finished basement in about 3 months.WRONG!
About four months into the project is where things started to go sideways and where our lack of experience was our downfall. The following are the things I think we will try to remember when moving forward with our project or in attempting other projects.

1) A contract is not good enough. You need to understand what is in the contract and it needs to include everything. We had a contract but the breakdown of work was so vague that we didn't know what tasks were included in each section and how much each of those items was going to cost. It was so general, that we didn't actually understand the steps in completing our project.

2) Keeping up with the job as it goes. We were not able to be there because we both work full time but mostly we just blindly trusted the contractor to know what he was doing and relied on the building inspector to catch anything not done correctly.There will always be things that are unexpected in a renovation and you need to be responsible in dealing with those changes. We should have educated ourselves as the project moved forward with proper techniques, talked to the building inspectors ourselves about building codes and permits that were required. Don't just trust the contractor because as it turns out ours lied and did not get the permits he was supposed to and the building inspectors are only there as a last backup after the work is completed.

3)Check your contractor's qualifications, we checked that ours was a member of the better business bureau but didn't know about professional associations that exsisted to govern builders. We also didn't know that there are different types of contractors, finishing contractors do finishing work etc.

4) Your contractor is not your friend. This doesn't mean you need to be mean to them, but you have a business relationship and you are the boss, so if they aren't doing the work or following your directions it is your job as the employer to ask why or question the reason. Don't nag but you are paying for the things you let slip by. In our case, we had some bad weather and the contractor said he couldn't work because of it (more so because the wet made our yard turn to quicksand and push a wheelbarrow through it would have been really hard).Turns out there was an easy fix to the problem, but we didn't find it until we actually looked it to ourselves much much later, about 2 months later. We excepted the excuse because we didn't want to be unreasonable and demanding and I wouldn't want to work outside in the rain and snow either. But  I choose an office job so I wouldn't have to, the contractor knew going into this career that they may need to get a bit wet or cold in order to finish the job.

 I think that is a start, I don't want to scare anyone away from renovating nor do I mean to imply that builders or contractors are bad people. I except that part to the reason for our situation is our fault. I just wanted to pass on what we had learned in the last year in the hopes that it will help someone else avoid what we are going through.
 In case you were wondering, we are now speaking with a lawyer and trying to borrow money from family to finish the house, but it will cost more because of the damage that was done because it has been sitting so long. There is also a possibility we won't get our money back as we know the the contractor does not have the money, the company will most likely go bankrupt and close, then they will re-open with a new name and carry on.

Friday 11 November 2011

Reno Update #1

So we have had a bit of slow progress with our basement reno. It is hard to keep things moving quickly when you have no money, work full time and have to try to figure out pursuing legal action against the ex-contractor. This does cause me some frustration but I do like the fact that the slow pace means we can make sure things are happening correctly. More importantly that we are comfortable with the decisions being made considering our ex-contractor didn't involve us in a lot of decisions.
 So here is the progress,
1) Our retaining wall now has a layer of drainage rock behind it
2) Our driveway is free of bricks and they are now stacked on pallets ready for sale ( anyone want to buy some bricks?)
We had some wonderful helpers with the driveway bricks, amazing how much quicker things go with a few extra hands

The next steps are removing a patch of asphalt at the bottom of the driveway, then to add the layer of  screenings to complete the driveway.
We also need to add a bit more gravel behind the retaining wall and potting soil in the area where we will make a garden bed. 

Sunday 6 November 2011

I love sundays

I love the way sunday feels, so relaxed (not always, it used to be the day I had a handover, ugh) but now it is the day you got to sleep in twice in a row. It is the day my amazing husband brings me tea in bed.  I even got a little homemade apple pie in bed this morning, such a lucky girl.

We usually keep it simple on sundays, relaxing and getting ready for the week ahead. We also go to my mother's house for dinner on sundays. I love this sunday dinner at mom's house. My family is very close, I grew up with just my mom, my sister and I in my family. (My father was killed in a car accident when I was 4 years old.) So even though my sister and I are complete opposites and we don't always get along, we are very close. I love that my mom makes dinner and we all come and eat and talk and visit. Sometimes we have others like aunts or cousins, but mostly it is just the main characters. Mom, my husband and I and my sister, brother in law and my niece. She is almost 3 and I couldn't love her more.

Friday 4 November 2011

Boo! Take Two!

Well I made a few stops on the way home to try to up the spook content of our house this Halloween. I started with this and added a big furry spider and some crows to sit around the house
PJ and the 'Boys' even got in to the Halloween spirit.




Although Otis wasn't quite sure about the hat.

I also bought some mason jars for $6.79 and painted them all black except for some clear spaces in the shape of spooky eyes or jack-o-lantern faces to line our stairway. Also, just a tidbit, If you want the paint to come off afterwards so you can reuse the jar or whatever you are painting on, just add a little liquid dish soap, and the paint will slide off with water. However in all the rush, I forgot to take a picture of the jars and the outside set up, Opps!

And as for the trick or treaters? We had 8 in total! Boo Hoo. Not sure if we are in a neighbourhood with no kids or if the shopping centre trick or treating is taking over. I will keep trying and hopefully the candy scent with lure them in. Insert maniacal laughter here.

On a side note, I am looking for something to spice with the old window in the first picture. It is from our basement renovation and is original to our 1935 house, but it is kinda bland on our mantle. Anyone have any ideas? I can't leave the halloween and spider, the next holiday is just around the corner.

Monday 31 October 2011

Boo!

It's Halloween! I love Halloween. Unfortunately, I have been able to decorate much of the house yet this year due to budgets and most of all a lack of time.
This is the start of the decorations, my family had a little pumkin carving/painting soiree on the weekend and this is what I came up with. $3.99 for the pumpkin, and the paint I had left over from other projects.
 But I do have a few plans and I have been stealing ideas from some very crafty and creative bloggers I follow. So I will head home after work to today and see what I can come up with. Last year we had a whooping 12 kids come to our house so maybe if I make to outside say "Halloween" loud and clear then a few more kids will stop by! Wish me luck!

Wednesday 26 October 2011

Happy Birfday

 I recently celebrated my birthday by hitching a ride with my mom, sister and super cute niece to visit a dear friend who has moved away to another city. I had a great time visiting with her and we got a lot of catching up done. I rambled on about married life, basement renos and future bambinos (shhh, that last one isn't info ready for our families just yet). She told me about her life in the new city and the struggles she is having. We reflected on the fact that we are now into our early thirties and how things are so much  different than we imagined.

Here is what I thought my thirties would be like when I was 22:
1) I would be married to a great guy... Check
2) I would own a house....Check
3) That house would be nicely finished and beautifully decorated..... ummm, not so much
4) I would have at least one child...hmmm, working thinking on that one still
5) I would have a great job... Check

That is as far as I got in my planning when I was 22, I guess I am not doing too badly, but isn't it funny how things and priorities change as you enter the real grown up world.

These things are never more present in my thoughts as we are contemplating a move back in with my mother. Some how it feels like a huge step back to own a house but be living with you mom at 32 years old! Sigh, but at least we have a lot of other things going for us I am really not complaining.
I wonder, did anyone end up where they thought they would be at a younger age?

Sunday 23 October 2011

The wall

We have been working hard in the backyard to get things sealed up for the winter. Well, PJ is working very hard, I was sick with the flu or flu shot reaction, so I did what I could. And then I was away visiting a friend for my birthday which was fantastic, I only wish PJ could have been there with us but he was a good home renovator and stayed home to build this!


We now have... drum roll please... a wall! A very sturdy retaining wall that will hold our backyard in and double as a lovely planter garden box for our renter (when we finally get some).

We also have three properly sealed windows! However we do need to do four more. We did another weekend blitz of stuff, mostly prep work for upcoming jobs, but still hard work.

Friday 21 October 2011

Status Quo

We are a few weeks post wedding, post honeymoon and back in the swing of real life(sigh vacations/ honeymoons are never long enough). I can't tell if it is good thing or bad thing but I can't say anything is really that different. I am really not complaining as things were pretty good before the wedding and still are pretty darn good. Maybe slightly better because the pressure of the wedding deadline is off me now.

I wonder if this is common? PJ and I lived together before we were married, actually we bought a house together six months after we met and we had already been living together for four months. If you are math savy, that's right we lived together two months after our first meeting and if I was being honest it is probably more like one month after we met. Let's just say it felt right to us and to my surprise it made sense to everyone else too! Anyway, we lived together before marriage so I feel like a lot of the adjustment to that lifestyle was already complete. Now we have some new stuff and a piece of paper to prove it ( and a wonderful memory).

The reason I wonder is because a lot of people told me " even though you live together it will feel different..." or " things will still change" , Well not so far, and I think I am ok with it. If anyone else is reading this....did marriage change things for you? Are you worried it will?

Tuesday 11 October 2011

My sheepish secret

A while ago I ripped off the band-aid that was my little blogging secret and told PJ about the blog. I not sure what made me keep quiet about it before, embarrassment, maybe? A desire to have something just for me, possibly? I think maybe a bit of both. Either way, I decided that we were about to be married and he should know about it, especially if I was going to talk about him in it.

Decision made! I was going to tell him. I told him. Unfortunately I didn't really think this decision through very well, because then he wanted to READ IT! After a few squirmy moments I handed over the address and waited while he read each post.  He was given the instructions he was not allowed to give feedback on my writing style (writing has historically been difficult for me so I have a little sensitivity to correction), content feedback was welcome.

The end of the story is a happy one, he thought it was good and was happy with some nice things I wrote about him. I don't think he has read it since that night, which is fine by me, it keeps it just for me. But I feel better knowing he knows.

Monday 10 October 2011

Making up for lost time

Things have been a bit sparse on the blog posting front and I apologize. I will try to make up for it by filling in the gaps with a few more posts ( and posting twice today!), also I am sick so I have a lot of time to sit with my computer.

So now that the wedding and honeymoon are over, we can get back to normal life. In the last while since returning from our honeymoon we have been focusing on getting our renovation back on track. I am not sure if I alluded to this in my other reno post, but part of the reason our basement project is taking so long is we had to fire our contractor. It is a long story of poor project management, inexperience and covering his tracks. Anyway, the long story ends with him being 'let go' and us missing a large huge sum of money and our basement only halfway done. This means we have become 'do it yourselfers'!

The first order of business is to address the half completed exterior of the house. Winter is coming and I have no desire to be working outside in the cold and dark. Not to mention the possible damage to the house if there is not siding on it.

Part of the problem is the windows. They were improperly installed and have to be taken out and redone. Then we need new siding, because there is none of the old siding left to cover the exposed parts. 


And the biggest barrier, apart from no money to pay someone to do the work, is the deck was put back together and is literally blocking us from doing work on some of the windows and siding. Blah!

The good news is we have help, people who took pity on us and are professionals who will guide us, and non-professionals who will help us with the labour. In the last week/weekend, we (PJ, carpenter, PJ's mum and I) removed the old siding, partially took apart the deck, and reinstalled the three windows on the back side of the house, and put up the tar paper in preparation for the new siding. I promise to get some pictures, but I couldn't be bothered because I have the flu and today is thanksgiving. I am pretty sure PJ took some in progress photos, that I can steal.

I'm BACK and BETTER than EVER!

I am happy to report that the wedding was huge success, not only because PJ and I are now legally married but because it was amazing. Everything turned out how I envisioned and everyone had a great time. With out further ado, here are some pictures...
The ladies getting ready


My Dress

The ceremony set up

Our "first look" before the guests arrive

Some of the bridesmaids, missing my sister but it is such a nice photo I had to include it

Adorable flower girl

Walking down the isle with my mother


The ceremony

First kiss as Mr. and Mrs.

The full bridal party

Our lovely vehicle



The reception

Place cards

Guest book painted by a friend and card/gift table

Swedish lawn game to help guests relax and fill the time while we did some photos

And some sangria on the deck

Groomsman's speech


Cutting the cake

Gorgeous cake made by a friend



I loved every minute of our wedding, well not the one where I got stung by a bee, but every other minute was wonderful. I am so happy to have been lucky enough to have found someone so amazing to love and to have him love me back.

Wednesday 7 September 2011

The storm before the fun

The last couple days have been crazy, I didn't think I was going to be too "crazy bride" but I had my moments. Luckily for PJ, I think I am past it now. He has, after a bit of fumbling, come through with shining colours on the getting stuff done front. He started his own list of things to do and has pretty much done everything I ask him to do without complaint. Although, we were visiting his parents the other day and I was telling his mother about the 'fumbles" and she asked (in jest) "are you sure you still want to marry him?" Apparently these traits are one she has lived with for many years in PJ and his father. Yes, I still want to marry him :)
I think we still have a few things left to do, but the majority is done. So now 3 days before the wedding I am looking forward to relaxing, pampering and visiting with the out of town guests that begin arriving today. Yay!

Oh and the weather looks great, 25 degrees and blue skies!

Sunday 4 September 2011

Our Dirty Secret

Our dirty secret has nothing to do with scandal and intrigue and everything to to do with actual DIRT! We have been renovating our house for over a year. And I am pretty tired of the mess. PJ and I bought a house that we both fell in love with. The basement was a good height and looked prime for building a basement suite. That is about where the happily ever after ends. After many, many things that have gone wrong we are about half way through a reno that was supposed to take 3 months. But maybe that is a story for another post. This post is about the mud and dirt and mess that is our yard.
This is our backyard at its worst, it is a little better now, but not much. At least the heavy machinery is gone and we have most of our deck back.  But two people and two dogs is a lot of muddy feet to be sweeping up after.
Most of the renovation have been put on hold for the wedding and honeymoon, but once those are over we will have no excuses and hopefully things will move forward.

Thursday 1 September 2011

I WUB YOU!

I count myself amongst the very lucky few people who can say I love my job.This doesn't mean that I  arrive early in the morning and leave much later than everyone else, I am human and I really like to sleep.  I do however feel like I found something I am meant to do. But I think most of all I do actually enjoy many parts of my job( read: everything but paperwork)

I am a pediatric speech language pathologist or speech therapist. I get to help preschool kids with their articulation, language and stuttering among other things. The two things I love most about my job are: the idea that I helped a child/ family to understand each other and gave the child a sense of pride the they achieved something after some hard work. I also love the mental puzzle that is involved with 'figuring out' each child and how to help them.  Not the mention that I get to work with kids who are at such a fun and interesting stage in their young lives, I mean, who doesn't get excited by play-doh.
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Now to be honest, they are not all little cherubs, some are poorly behaved, some have off days (don't we all) and some pick their noses, but those are rare. Most are happy and excited to see what game or activity I have to play that day.

This post is inspired by a little boy who I have been seeing since he was just under 2 years old. At that time he was a handful. He was not yet talking and he was very, very frustrated about not being able to communicate. He had a very short attention span and most of his appointments were spend with his mother and I chasing him and desperately trying to interpret what he wanted.

A couple years later and he is a happy little boy with a great sense of humour, who can walk into the office and announce " I'm FOUR" to anyone who will listen (we worked on the /f/ sound for months and months). After his appointment yesterday, as he was leaving my office, spiderman sticker proudly displayed on his t-shirt when he turned around and ran back to me and said "I wub you" and gave me a hug.  It is moments like these that make all the spit, vomit and stinky kids worth it.

Wednesday 31 August 2011

The world outside the wedding bubble

I am fully immersed in the wedding bubble now. All I can do is think about the wedding while running through mental lists of things to do for the wedding. I can't focus at work, despite having reports to write while still seeing my regular clients. I can't get housework or yard work done. And the saddest of all is my poor little pooches are suffering from cabin fever. Here are the poor little guys
They get out to the backyard to roam around and do their business maybe chase a stick, but they are used to trips to the dog park a couple times a week and a whole lot more attention. Luckily, they will be spoiled in a few short days because my mother is looking after them while we are getting married and on our honeymoon. They LOOOOVE visiting her and playing with her dog in her giant back yard.

As for work, I am so glad my work grants marriage leave, that's right they are paying me to get married! I am using it to take the week before the wedding off, really I don't think I would be all that productive anyway, but I am grateful for the time to get ready and do last minute stuff, without the guilt of not focusing on work. Yay, only two days left of work, now I need to go, I have reports to write.

Monday 22 August 2011

Happy Days

One of my best friends is a photographer. She kindly offered to take some pictures as a gift for us so here we are in all our goofy, blissful, pre-wedding happiness!